Friday, May 30, 2008

Movie Habits

I like to watch romantic comedies.

Of my own free will, I will watch romantic comedies. By myself. And I will most likely cry at the happy ending.

Yes, I'm a sucker for a happy ending, but there is one main reason why I enjoy these movies.

I believe in falling in love. Not necessarily love at first sight, but I believe in falling in love. Maybe it's the couple that you never imagined would end up together, or the couple that was clearly made for each other. Okay, well, maybe that is clear to everyone else but the couple.

I want to fall in love so bad it hurts sometimes. I don't want to date, really. I want to be in a relationship. Can't I just skip the whole dating thing?

See, while I was in college, I would observe the girls in my classes. I guess you could say that my classes were the first couple of dates. When I worked up the nerve to actually ask somebody in one of my classes out, it was because I already wanted to date that person, not just go on a date. Most of the time they didn't know it, but when I asked a girl out for the first time, I was really declaring my intentions to date her. Does that make sense to anybody else besides me?

The ultimate conclusion being, now that I'm out of college, it's a lot more difficult for me. It's not that I don't want to go out, it's that I have been deprived of my natural observation period. I'm not good at getting to know someone. It takes time for someone to get used to me, to get to know me.

So, I don't know, I guess you can draw your own conclusions from this. I just wanted to get it out there, try to explain what dating is like for me.

I just want to meet someone I can fall in love with. Is that too much to ask?


julie said...

Your title is misleading...this wasn't really a post about movies. :)

I understand how you feel - I really want to be in a relationship, too! I don't mind dating, though. I'd like it to be dating with a purpose, not just anybody, but I like the "getting to know you" stage. I also like it when we know each other better and are more comfortable.

I understand your difficulty. Finding someone to date is hard at your age (you're so OLD!!).

I guess we just have to trust that there are people out there who will be able to see how awesome we are. I believe timing is essential.

Good luck. I hope you find the love you're looking for. You deserve it.

Di said...

Yo Bro,
As a fellow single a later age than some, I truly felt at times that true love would never come. Obviously it did, but I had a wise ecclesiastical leader who told me that I had to put out the effort. I had to take myself to social settings even if I didn't want to, because that was the only way to get to know someone enough to be at that comfortable dating point. Anyhow, I did that and 10 months later I was married. Who knows???? I don't think there is one sure answer, but I do know that true lov exists and when you've met your match it is wonderful!

Madman said...

You're right, Julie, but not every title has to perfectly fit the blog. You're probably just mad that I didn't make it alliterative.

Thanks for the wise counsel, Di. I know I need to be more social to meet people, and at some point I'm sure I'll finally decide to not be a hermit and go for it. Right now I'm just at the wishing stage.

This blog didn't come out exactly as I wanted either, but I was confused by the Spanish music I was listening to while writing it. I turned it off halfway through writing, but that was too late, unfortunately.