Saturday, August 29, 2009

My Visit Home...

...was very rough on me.

My dad is suffering from dementia. We figure he has, or is developing, Alzheimer's. Hasn't been officially diagnosed, but all the indicators are there.

I went to Kanab to get my car inspected and registered, and to help my mom keep an eye on Dad. During the day, he's usually fairly normal, but once the sun goes down, he starts getting more and more agitated and upset.

You can't convince him to go to bed. Apparently, he's afraid that if he goes to sleep, he will die. At least, that's what he told my brother before. So I didn't get much sleep while I was there, as I would sit up with Dad until he went to bed, then I would lie on the floor in the room next to his, and try to sleep as much as possible. Then I would nap during the day for a couple hours.

Friday was really, really bad. He didn't get normal during the day; he was very agitated all day. He wouldn't go for a ride with one of his friends. In the evening, he said he was going to die because he wasn't breathing. I tried to explain that he WAS breathing, because he was still talking, but he just said we would see. He told my mom to give him a hug goodbye. Then he went to sleep. He woke up about an hour later.

He was up all night. He got me this morning, very agitated. I couldn't handle him, so I got my mom, who called my sister and brother-in-law. They took him to the hospital. The doctor on duty ran tests, then gave him a shot that would supposedly put him out all day, and most of the night as well. That was at 7 or 8 in the morning, but he was awake and agitated by the time I left at noon. I hated to leave Mom and Dad like that, but I wanted to go visit my brother and sister-in-law, and, to be honest, I just couldn't take it anymore.

I think he would do better if he would just sleep. His body is obviously exhausted, but his mind won't let him go to sleep. I don't know what to do.


7 comments:

The Robinsons said...

oh man that makes us so sad to hear! we were up there a few weeks ago and derrick and keith were able to give him a blessing. we could tell that things were just not right. i'm sorry you had to go through all that. hopefully things will be okay. you're welcome to come visit us.

Madman said...

Thanks. I would love to, but don't have the funds right now.

Andi wants to go help, so I may meet her flight then drive her down, but I have some other things to take care of in Cedar City, so may not stay in Kanab. Hope she does okay.

The Robinsons said...

when is she coming? we might try to sneak up to kanab soon too! (we hear ya on the funds issue starving students!!)

MARISA said...

Apreciado Adam, tuve la oportunidad de leer tu pagina, me apena lo de tu padre, estarán en mis oraciones; ahora te sugiero se capaciten en aquello que disgnóstiquen los médicos, tú padre necesita mucho soporte emocional de la familia , paciencia y mucho amor. Asi mismo, tener actividades familiares de todo tipo; pero primero hay que estabilizarlo. deseo lo mejor para Tu familia. Bendiciones!

julie said...

I'm so sorry! Sounds like a tough trip home. How is your mom? I bet she appreciated you being there.

Madman said...

Gracias Marisa! Agradezco mucho tus palabras y tus oraciones.

Thanks Julie. Mom's having a rough time, but she tries to stay fairly upbeat. But it's very rough on her.

paul, jaylene, kaden and karter said...

we too are worried about him, but i didnt realize the extent of it. we will be in kanab this weekend and hope to spend a little time with him. i hope your mom is doing ok!!